Comments on: 13 Self Esteem Building Tips for Boys

By: Jill

Jill — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 20:05:42 +0000

Hello Patty,

There is much you can do to bolster a child’s self-esteem and a simple step to take is to find something — anything! — that this child is good at doing and to build on it. Take action each and every day and over the course of a short period of time you will see major improvements him. (And YES, every person has skills and talents and small actions do make a big difference, remember this!)

Also, if you feel that professional help is needed please seek it at your school, church, community organization or local hospital.

Most kindly,
Jill

By: Patty

Patty — Fri, 14 Oct 2011 16:57:21 +0000

Hi,

I have a 16 year old boy and I don’t know what I have done wrong. He doesn’t seem to have any self esteem. What steps do I take to build his self esteem back up. I think it began when he was in the sixth grade. He was chubby during 5-8th grade and would get made fun of because of his weight. Help!

Patty

By: Jill

Jill — Mon, 10 Oct 2011 14:05:00 +0000

Hello Lauren,

The very best thing YOU can do for your brother is to love and accept him and let him know it! That is a powerful action and can help him dramatically.

Of course, if you feel he needs even more help than you can offer then you might want to seek advice from a school counselor, a trusted person from a local church or community organization or from other family members. Remember that challenges make us stronger and that we are capable of dealing with much more than we give ourselves credit for being able to manage.

Be strong and keep loving your brother! Tell him to be strong too. Everything will work out!

Kindly,
Jill

By: Lauren J

Lauren J — Sat, 08 Oct 2011 17:23:25 +0000

I have a 15 year old brother and he’s a really smart kid. The thing about him is the typical going to school of his choice. This school year he didn’t have that chance. He’s going to a military school and he complains about going. Our mother, though, went to this same school and our grandmother was in the army long ago. They give him grief about not giving it a chance, but he has good grades. Now, he’s always looking down and sad. He tries to stay away from both our mother and grandmother. I need help with my little brother. He feels they are downing him and his affords.

By: Jill

Jill — Thu, 06 Oct 2011 00:51:22 +0000

Hello Donna,

It sounds to me as though your grandson is a spectacular kid, and you obviously love him lots!

I understand your concern and suggest that you speak about this matter with his parents, or maybe with a counselor at his school. There is a lot of pressure on athletes and it can be a fine line between something bolstering a child’s self-esteem if the advice works or lowering it if they don’t succeed and “measure up.” So please seek out professional advice in regards to this matter.

Oh… and thank you for loving your grandson so deeply. That makes all the difference in the world to a child!

Kindly,
Jill

By: donna samuel

donna samuel — Wed, 05 Oct 2011 23:57:52 +0000

I need help, I have a grandson who plays football. He is 10 years old almost eleven. He is very thin, but he is a very good runner. Two-time winner of the MVP award three years straight. Great kid, quiet, respectful, and good looking.Recently his coach told him to gain some weight because next year is going to be difficult for such a small framed kid. I am grandma, and I am FURIOUS. Is this the proper way today to build good self-esteem in these kids. I worry because his sister is normal, he is small. His Dad is small, always has been. Please help!!!! what sgould happen?

By: Trike Motorcycles

Trike Motorcycles — Wed, 13 Oct 2010 19:04:33 +0000

i love to read those self-help books online, they can really help me alot when dealing with problems,;*